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Wednesday, May 19, 2010

This Card Is For You Bernice

Yesterday I was working on a project and I heard the sirens. I looked out my window and saw a police car parking at the curb in front of our apartment building. I could still hear sirens and that always meant that an ambulance would follow. It did - and then two more police cars.

Where I live there are many elderly and disabled tenants - people vulnerable to numerous health issues - so an ambulance is not an uncommon sight. When this happens, everyone checks with each other to see who may be ill or injured. But today, three police cars with the ambulance - something was very wrong. I called a friend and asked if something bad had happened. She said "Bernice died last night". For a moment, it didn't even compute. What? How? Bernice was my friend who lived across the hall from me. I had just talked to her on the telephone the night before. We talked of the beautiful weather, the lilacs that we both loved.

Yesterday was a very sad day. I was in shock - I kept thinking how can this be? I kept going over the conversation we had the night before and think, did I miss something? She was often ill and many times afraid and would call to see if I could come over. I created a weekly med chart for her to help with her medications as she would become confused.

But when I talked to her that night she said that she was feeling ok, just a bit tired and told me of being out and attending a family birthday party last weekend and she had a cute story of the 2 year old birthday boy when he opened his gift of a pair of shorts that she wanted to share. At the end of our conversation we told each other to have a good night and she said that she was just calling to see how I was. Now she is gone. She was alone when she died. Was she afraid? Did she try to call someone? I had not been well and she called to see how I was - and now she is gone. It just didn't compute.

I worked on this making this card for her yesterday. I tried to catch the essence of her. This is for you Bernice. I am missing you, my friend.

Thank you for stopping by.

Hug your friends today - tell them you care.

Barbara Diane


Gaby said...

Oh Barbara,

I'm so sorry. I wished I wouldn't be so far away. That way I could have given you a big warm hug.

Your card turned out really beautiful and I'm sure your friend would love it.

Big hugs!

Helen said...

Hello Barbara,

This is very sad. A big hug to you.

Rhonda Miller said...

Barbara, I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your friend.
This is a beautiful card. Thanks for sharing your story.

Creations by Patti said...

Barbara: It is indeed sad to hear about your neighboe Bernice. You are such a dera friend with a big heart to have given her so much so willingly. May these words give you some comfort: Heaven sent us an Angel to borrow for a while With starlight in her eyes and sunshine in her smile. A special Angel we couldn't help but love.We want to keep her with us forever, but she was only here on loan. You see, Angels belong in heaven, they can't live long on earth. Keep her close in your heart and her memory will be treasured. Hugs, Patti

Kathy Czygan said...

Barbara...This brings me to tears. I'm so sorry for your loss! The card you made for her is so beautiful, and I'm sure she knows about it and is smiling because you are such a caring friend. I pray that the emptiness you feel right now will be filled with lovely and funny memories of your precious friendship. Prayers, Blessings, and Hugs. Kathy

Sharon -- The OKI Stampqueen said...

Barbara-So sorry to hear of the passing of your friend. Thoughts and prayers are with you--that you might be able, after this time of "rain", to remember the sunshine and happy times you shared with her. Blessings, Sharon

Mary said...

So sorry about losing your friend Barbara. She was lucky to have you as her friend and likewise for you to have her friendship. Just remember the many times you were together and don't dwell on her death, only the good my dear, only the good.

Jackie Thomas said...

Oh Barbara, I'm so very sorry. Bernice will always be with you in spirit and I'm sure she was watching over you while you created this beautiful card with her in mind. You are such a wonderful lady and my heart goes out to you. I'm sending you a huge cyber hug. Take care, hugs xo Jackie

Sandee said...

Oh Barbara! You have me in tears! I am so sorry about your sweet friend! But I feel sure she is enjoying your card right now and remembering how dear you are to her!

Love crafts forever said...

Hello my bloging Friend. I am very
sorry about your friend. I wish i can give you a hug. Your card is beautiful, she would love it.
hugs, Nataliya.

Allison said...

My sympathy to you. Your beautiful words have now brought a memory of Bernice to many more people.
Thank you also for sharing the lovely card.

Mary said...

I am so sorry for your loss, but it sounds like she went in peace. I am sure she would of told you when you talked if she thought something was wrong. You can't blame yourself and think of the "what if's". You are a great friend to many and we all love you for that.

Joani said...

I've not really been online for a few days so this is the 1st I've seen your post. I am so very sorry! Please know that your friend even though she was alone is now with her friends and family that have gone before her. I hope that this thought will give you some comfort. Once again Barbara, I am very sorry for your loss.

Michelle said...

Oh Barbara
I am sending you hugs. I am so very sorry for your loss.
I wish I were closer so I could come and have a cuppa.
Kindest regards

Zebiline said...

Oh Barbara, thats hard to be lost a friend. I am so sorry!
The card is so funny and fresh and colourful ... Bernice would love it. I know she is in your near, ever!

Sending you many hugs♥
Blessings Gaby